By Bri’Ann Stephens
Your bad attitude does not make you a boss, it makes you annoying and quite frankly no one wants to work with you.
Because of music, reality television, and society, women think that being a "B-word" makes them more of a boss. Well, no one wants to work with a boss.
There's a difference between being a boss and a leader. Leaders lead, motivate and empower. Bosses just try to get the job done. While bosses are focused on themselves, leaders look for ways they can help and encourage those around them.
A boss makes themselves the center of attention, gives orders, treats others as inferiors, and sees people as disposable.
“A leader encourages others to shine, gives direction, treats others as equals, and sees others as essential.”
If you have a bad attitude, more than likely you're a boss and no one wants to work with you. Whether you're an entrepreneur, artist, model, nurse, makeup artist, photographer, teacher, or student, your attitude matters.
If you're a woman who aspires to have big team with an even bigger company, your attitude plays a huge role because people take respect seriously.
If you have a bad attitude, whatever industry you're in will most likely blacklist you because of your bad attitude and—people talk. You become "hard to work with."
You’re probably wondering if you are the type of person who has a bad attitude.
Here are simple signs you have a bad attitude:
YOU GIVE UP AND THROW TANTRUMS WHEN THINGS DO NOT GO YOUR WAY.
YOU ARE CONDESCENDING AND TRY TO BELITTLE OTHERS.
YOU JUDGE PEOPLE'S CHARACTERS AND GOSSIP ABOUT OTHERS.
YOU DO NOT GREET PEOPLE WHEN YOU ARE AROUND THEM.
EVERYONE AND EVERYTHING IRRITATES YOU.
YOU ALWAYS BELIEVE YOU ARE RIGHT.
YOU DO NOT GET HAPPY FOR OTHERS.
PEOPLE TELL YOU THAT YOU HAVE A BAD ATTITUDE.
Now, you may not deal with everything on this list, but if you deal with one thing, try and kill it before it grows and gets worse.
I still struggle with having a condescending tone, and being wrong. I hate being wrong. However, these are things I have identified. So now, I make sure to pay attention to the things I say and how I say them.
One of the major things I learned by being a women empowerment leader is having integrity. Integrity is being the same person in private and in public.
My public life shows that I am inspiring, motivational, empowering, supportive, and compassionate. That means my private life has to match. I cannot be a leader in public, but a boss in private. I had to learn to create the atmosphere we have externally, internally.
I started to send motivational text messages, offering a helping hand in different areas, offering to pray for members, helping team members in areas that they are weak, understanding different perspectives, considering different ideas, and giving individuals the options to choose their duties.
No one is perfect, we all have growing to do. Make sure you are growing in the areas it counts. The last thing you want to do is miss out on good people and amazing opportunities because of your bad attitude.
If you can admit that you have a bad attitude sometimes, what are some ways you’re working on it? I would love to know more tips!