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3 Ways To Identify The Company You Keep

by Krystle Barrington on April 19, 2023

Spring cleaning is about organization, removing clutter, and finding a new sense of peace in our homes. The idea of reviving our homes to “bloom” again isn’t limited to where we lay our heads. Spring cleaning can be applied to many areas of our lives, including taking an intentional look at our friendships. The idea here is not to throw away relationships right away, but to assess if those we are connected to benefit and align with who we are today. Think of it as an opportunity to address issues that have been avoided, express thanks to those who have been there for you, or even accept that some relationships have just run their course.

There are many things to consider when evaluating our connections, but here are three things to consider:

  • Grace is key. At some point in any friendship, there will be conflict. Culture says that when someone makes a mistake they’ve “shown us who they are.” On the contrary, we are all subject to disappointing another in some form or fashion because we’re all imperfect people. Friendships where grace is given and grace is received looks like being patient and meeting one another where the other person is. However, don’t be so blinded by grace that you overlook serious red flags.

  • Authenticity gives us the freedom to be ourselves. There is something about being able to show up in our purest form in the friendships we have. Frankly, pretending is exhausting, and a safe space to be who we are non-negotiable.

  • Celebrating one another is the best kind of reciprocity. Sometimes friendships will look like one person is on a high while the other may be at an all-time low. It’s a beautiful thing when people balance out each other with support no matter the season they’re in. Moreover, when those closest to us express how proud of us they are and vice versa, it just hits differently.

The goal here isn’t to throw away relationships due to disagreements and misunderstandings but to discern relationships we’ve outgrown. Consider this a gentle nudge to “clean up” those misunderstandings or make space for new relationships that speak to who you are today. Take time to evaluate who brings you joy and how you can be more present for those you call friends.

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